If only we could have a crystal ball to tell us which men will end up breaking our hearts or stop calling us just when we think we’re falling in love.
Well, there is because this post will give you a list of the types of men to avoid while dating.
Here are the 7 types of men to avoid.
Men Who Cheat
My belief has always been “Once a cheater, always a cheater”. Of course, there are always exceptions to the rule, but from personal experience and observation, it’s true. Men who cheat will usually do it until they are caught.
If the woman forgives them, then they will cheat again. This time, they will be more creative in not getting caught. I worked with a man who had a long-term girlfriend and when I asked if he had ever cheated before, he stated yes.
He then said that if she caught him again, she would leave him.
Did that deter him from cheating again? Nope, he was sleeping with another woman he worked with at that time.
Men (and women) cheat for a variety of reasons. However, those who tend to cheat are habitual offenders and are prone to keep doing it over and over. Maybe they saw their dad cheat on their mom and she didn’t leave them.
Maybe they aren’t fulfilled in their relationships.
Doesn’t really matter. You deserve to be with a man who loves you and wants to be only with you. For every cheating scumbag out there, there are hundreds of faithful men ready to love you.
Men Who Lie
A man who lies to you about small things will lie to you about big things. When I started dating this one man, he lied about his car being in the shop. Came to find out, his car wasn’t in the shop.
He didn’t even have a car or a license for that matter.
Why didn’t he have a license? He kept getting pulled over for driving without one – oh and of course there was the back child support issue. After uncovering one lie, there were several other ones lying underneath it.
You deserve to be with someone who not only tells the truth but doesn’t have so much baggage that they feel it necessary to lie about them. You don’t want to get yourself in a situation where his lies will spill over into your life.
Men Who’ve Been to Prison (and especially those who can’t seem to stay out).
Now I’m not saying that every man who has ever been locked up is a bad person, but dating a felon puts a damper on your life. Never mind what criminal act got him locked up in the first place.
If you’re able to accept whatever he did to put him behind bars, then, by all means, go right ahead.
I’m sure there’s a difference between someone who held up a liquor store and someone who stole a DVD from Walmart.
If you do decide to date a felon, there are moral issues to be considered. Did this person steal because he was homeless and starving? Or is he someone who never had anything positive to contribute to society and will ultimately end up back in prison anyway?
Just remember that it’s difficult (though not impossible) for felons to find good jobs. They’re often snubbed when they come out of prison, even after paying their debt to society.
They often can’t qualify for programs such as financial aid, which will make it difficult for them to get the education they will need to find a decent-paying job. This leaves a lot of the burden on you.
It’s not fair, but it’s reality.
Also, if they’re someone who can’t leave a life of crime alone, then they are putting your life and safety at risk.
Men Who Are Unemployed
I understand that recently our economy sucked big time, so finding and keeping a job can be very difficult for some of us.
However, the tides are changing and unemployment is a lot lower than it was a couple of years ago. So if your man didn’t have a job last year, then that’s okay.
If your man still doesn’t have a job after a year or more – well that’s a problem.
There are a lot of men out there who not only have a hard time finding work because of lack of education and job history but also because of felony convictions that keep them from becoming employed.
There are also quite a few men who just don’t like to work.
They’re lazy, unmotivated momma boys who are looking to you for a come-up or a handout. Either way, you don’t need to date them.
I believe in the courting process and I believe that men should pay for dates, especially in the beginning. If he doesn’t have a job or worse; not looking for one, then you better believe you’re going to foot the bill A LOT.
And to think, if he doesn’t like to work now, what are you going to do with him if you (heaven forbid) decide to marry him down the road?
Men Who Have Multiple Children With Multiple Women
I could leave it just like this, but many of you might ask me why I tell you not to date these types of men.
I understand that most of us are over the age of 30 and we all come with baggage. We probably have children of our own, a divorce under our belt, and a slew of bad mistakes right behind us.
That’s fine, but there’s a difference between a man with five children from his previous marriage and a man with five children by five different women.
Multiple “baby mommas” tell me a lot about a man.
One, he loves to have unprotected sex – A LOT.
Two, he felt the desire to have children with these women but didn’t care enough to marry them. Now if you date him, fall in love with him, and happen to get pregnant by him; you’re going to baby momma number six.
Now you can believe he’s changed. You can believe that you’re better than all of his exes and that it will be different with him. I’m sure that’s what Ciara thought when she got with Future
Enough said.
Related: Why You Don’t Date Bad Boys – Lessons to Learn from Ciara
Men Who Are Always Broke
You might think that this is the same as #4, but it’s not. You can have a job and still be broke as a joke.
Not having any money is a red flag and it shows that the man you’re dating either doesn’t make enough money or he has a problem managing money.
There’s also the issue that your beau may be buried deep in debt.
Most of us who went to college probably have a few student loans out there. That’s fine, but if he has a fancy car note, designer suits, and the latest iPhone and still can’t pay his rent – he won’t have any money to spend on you.
I once dated a guy who seemed to work ALL OF THE TIME, but couldn’t keep any money in his pocket. He would often reschedule our dates because he didn’t have any money to take me out.
What’s worse, he started asking me for a hundred dollars here and there. It became so ridiculous that I started to question why I was dating him in the first place.
Men Who Are Mama Boys
When my 21-year-old son told me he wasn’t ever going to leave me, I knew he was no good for anyone.
Besides, not knowing how to cook, or evidently how to clean up after himself was a problem.
I knew that some poor girl would have to pick up from where I left off. This means, sooner rather than later, he would be right back home with his momma.
No one wants to have to take care of a grown man.
Also, if the man you’re dating seems to always have to consult with his momma about matters involving you, then it’s best to chuck your losses and move on.
It’s worse if the mother is controlling, doesn’t like you, or thinks her son is God’s greatest gift. You’re better off finding someone who is a little more self-sufficient.
You need a man who loves his momma but understands how to have healthy romantic relationships without her sayso.
I know I said 7 types of men, but here are three bonuses for the type of men you should avoid.
Men Who Are Not Self-Sufficient
A man who can cook and clean is sexy to me. This shows me that they can take care of a house and home and not solely depend on me to cook for them and clean up after them.
There are some men out there who not only can’t fix a cup of noodles, there are some that can’t pay their own bills or handle adult business.
I used to date this one guy who wanted me to be his personal secretary and handle all of his personal affairs. I started to feel more like his momma than his girlfriend.
He no longer looked attractive and I felt our relationship was more of a hassle than I was willing to deal with.
Men Who Abuse Drugs or Alcohol
Addiction is a powerful thing. Nothing matters more to a man with addiction than getting that fix. It could be a drug, gambling, or porn addiction.
It doesn’t matter.
I’ve seen marriages, families, and lives destroyed by addiction. It takes over a person’s mind, body, and soul and wreaks havoc on everyone that comes in contact with them.
No amount of love will help these men unless they are ready to be helped. Save yourself a lot of time, money, and heartache, and move on from this man expeditiously.
Men Who Are Abusive
Men who put down, threaten, or harm someone physically, mentally, or psychologically are the scum of the earth and have no place in your heart or life.
That’s it.
I’m not going to debate this with you and I’m not going to listen to you justify his actions. Someone who hurts you in any manner does not love you.
I once talked to a man who began squeezing my hand very hard – for no reason. I told him it hurt and I smacked him. He thought it was funny, but I didn’t.
It scared the ish out of me and I knew that he was testing me to see how far he could go. At that moment, I started to think of all his anger outbursts from before and I knew the two didn’t mix.
I acted like a basketball and bounced.
Have you ever dated any of these types of men before? If so, comment below and tell us your story.
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