Dating can be a confusing and complex experience, especially if you’re not sure if the person you’re interested in is genuinely interested in you.
Unfortunately, some men – yes, even grown men – play games in relationships. These games men play can leave you feeling frustrated and confused, which is not fair to you.
So, how can you avoid the game player?
I can’t say that you will avoid a man who likes to play games, but there are some signs that will help you to identify if he’s trying to play you like Monopoly (TM).
Here are 10 signs that a guy may be playing games with you:
He’s Inconsistent
If the guy you’re dating is hot and cold, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in a serious relationship or that he’s playing games with you.
He may show interest one day and then act distant the next, which can leave you feeling confused and unsure about his feelings.
It’s not okay for a man to go days or weeks without calling you. If he only reaches out when he’s bored, move on. You deserve to have the full attention of the man that you’re with.
He’s Not Reliable
If the guy you’re dating is unreliable, for example, he’s always canceling plans last minute or not showing up when he said he would, this could be a sign that he’s not taking the relationship seriously.
He may be playing games with you by keeping you on your toes or testing your patience.
This man may be entertaining his options or just keeping you on the side hanging on. It’s unfair and childish and you’re no man’s option.
He’s Not Clear About His Intentions
Another clear sign that the man is playing games with you is if he’s not clear about his intentions.
He may not want to commit to a serious relationship but still wants to keep you around for attention or companionship.
Be honest with yourself. If you want a relationship, then you will have to leave him alone and find someone who is ready and available.
He’s Not Interested in Getting to Know You
If the guy you’re dating doesn’t show an interest in getting to know you, such as your interests, values, or goals, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in a serious relationship.
I know this may hurt to hear, but he may just be using you for companionship or physical intimacy.
Men will use you for their own fulfillment. If you let them.
It’s not fair, but you don’t have to be around them either. Find a man who is honest about their intentions and actually shows interest in you.
Related: 5 Ways to Know He’s Interested in You
He’s Too Focused on Physical Intimacy
Suppose the guy you’re dating is only interested in physical intimacy and doesn’t seem interested in building an emotional connection.
In that case, this is a sign that he’s playing games with you.
He may just be looking for a casual hookup and not interested in a serious relationship.
Waiting to become intimate with a man may actually help with this. If he’s playing games, he won’t stick around too long.
However, if he’s sleeping with other women, he’ll be patient enough to wait for you and then use you for sex.
He’s Not Responsive
If the guy you’re dating is not responsive or takes a long time to respond to your messages or calls, this is a clear sign that he’s not interested in the relationship.
He’s playing games with you.
He likely keeping you on the back burner while he pursues other options.
An unresponsive man will make you feel rejected and unsure about yourself.
This has more to do with them than you, so go find a man who will be responsive to you and your needs.
He’s Still in Contact With His Ex
If the guy you’re dating is still in contact with his ex and it seems to be affecting your relationship, he’s definitely playing games.
He may be using you to make his ex jealous or to fill a void while he’s still emotionally attached to his ex. You deserve so much better and you’re no man’s rebound.
If a man tells you that his ex is his best friend or if he talks negatively about them, these are red flags you shouldn’t ignore.
Run, girl.
Related: Can He Be Friends With An Ex
He’s Disrespectful
If the guy you’re dating is disrespectful to you or others, it could be a sign that he’s not interested in a serious relationship.
He may be playing games with you by testing your boundaries or seeing how much he can get away with. Remember, you teach people how to treat you.
It’s important to set boundaries and stick to them. Don’t let the guy you’re dating disrespect you or treat you poorly.
If he’s not meeting your expectations or making you feel valued, it’s okay to walk away and find someone who will.
He’s Emotionally Unavailable
If the guy you’re dating is emotionally unavailable or doesn’t open up to you, it could be a sign that he’s playing games with you.
He may be keeping his distance to avoid getting too attached or to avoid getting hurt.
He may have been hurt or holding onto unresolved issues.
You, my friend, deserve to be with a man who will express his feelings towards you and be communicative with you.
You don’t have time for the foolishness and you’re not his therapist.
He’s Constantly Making Excuses
If the guy you’re dating is constantly making excuses for why he can’t see you or why he’s not available, he’s not interested and he’s playing games.
I dated a man who would always make the excuse that he was too busy working to spend time with me. However, he would always talk about the time he spent with his children, ex, family, etc. – everyone but me.
My dad always told me that excuses are only good for those who make them. So if he’s making too many of them – move on.
Related: 7 Types of Men to Avoid Like the Plague
It’s important to remember that not all guys are playing games, and some may just be unsure about their feelings or not ready for a serious relationship. However, if you notice several of these signs, it’s important to trust your instincts and communicate your concerns with the guy you’re dating.
You deserve to be treated with respect and kindness, and it’s important to set boundaries and communicate your needs in a relationship.
If the guy you’re dating is playing games with you, it’s okay to walk away and find someone who is interested in a serious, committed relationship.
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