Happy New Year My Lovelies!!!
I am so excited for this new year, not only for me, but for you as well. I believe that this is the year for you to find the love and romance you deserve.
If you are single or about to be single, 2015 will be the year for you to find the happiness you so desire.
Every year, so many people make resolutions on how to make the new year better than the last. No matter if it’s to lose weight, become more productive at work or start a business, January 1st is when we promise to do what we didn’t, but should’ve in the last year.
Of course, those resolutions usually fall by the wayside by the 20th and we’re back to our old selves, usually hating ourselves for not sticking to our convictions and being persistent.
If you are looking for love this year, I’m going to give you 5 ways to work towards making those dreams a reality. If you follow these steps, you are bound to either meet someone to start a relationship with or mend the one you’re with. Have faith, this is your year.
1. Stop being so hard on yourself. So what you spent the holidays without a significant other? You weren’t the only one. It doesn’t make you less of a woman if you didn’t have a man by your side at the holiday office party. All it says is that the time wasn’t right for you to be with anyone. Plus, who will enjoy your company more than yourself?
2. Give yourself a makeover. No matter if it is a physical or spiritual one, make yourself over. Do what will make you feel better about yourself. If you think your brown hair looks mousy on you, amp it up and be dramatic. If you put on a few pounds over the holidays noshing on gingerbread lattes and pound cakes, start working out and watch your portions. Or get counseling if your self-esteem has taken a dig from f-ed up relationships from the previous year. I always tell women that the new year is the best time to take care of ourselves mentally, because our head space will dictate how the rest of our year goes.
3. Get rid of people who are dragging you down. If your ex keeps calling you dangling hopes in front of you of getting back together, only to disappear as fast as he appeared, leave him alone. Don’t answer his calls (block his number if you’re not strong enough to resist picking up the phone), don’t stalk his Facebook page, and don’t give him a second thought. If you have family and friends who keep asking for money, but won’t repay, don’t loan money. Close your purse. Saying no is powerful and once you learn the art of it, you will be much happier for it.
4. Accept any and all invitations that will make you happy. Don’t stay home waiting on a man to ask you out, go and live life. Do the things you always wanted to do, but couldn’t because your boyfriend wasn’t interested or it conflicted with your date nights. Hang out with your other single friends or use that extra money you have from not loaning it to others and go on a mini vay-cay. You’re going to love yourself for it.
5. Date only men who are relationship material. I hate it when people tell you to date someone who you know will not last past the next month. Women get in the habit of bringing men into their lives who have no business being there in the first place. Then they are dumbfounded when they can’t get rid of them. Having something to do when there’s nothing to do will cost you time and energy and may block the blessing of an available and good man. Stop acting lonely and desperate, believing that you have to have someone, anyone in your bed. You’re special and you’re worth waiting for.
I hope you take these 5 tips to starting a great year to heart.
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