Comments on: How Long Should You Wait for Him to Commit

By: Kris

Kris — Thu, 18 Apr 2024 09:57:28 +0000

That’s a great article! I have a question though. I’ve been chatting into a guy via message for one and a half months (he lives interstate). Early on I asked him if he wants family and he said “I haven’t thought of that; I think meeting the right person would answer those big questions I have about family and the future ”. So we kept chatting and met face to face for the first time after chatting for almost two months. The meet up was good in some parts but also awkward (he asked me how much I pay for my place and how much some house hold items costed me; felt really strange and he didn’t really ask many questions to get to know me but he said he is a quiet person). He seemed a bit distant in body language (would often face another way) and hasn’t initiated a hug nor kiss. The goodbye was strange too because I gave him an hug and he said “see you around” and went on his way. After this date, he messaged saying he wants to see me again and I replied that I’d like it too. Since I’ve only been pursuing him as romantic interest, I wanted more certainty where we are at so said I need to know that this is heading somewhere. He replied vaguely saying he doesn’t want to be exclusive until we see each other again – “which will hopefully be soon”. Am I asking too much too soon? I guess I am not getting any certainty. His comment about family is a bit unclear, he is deciding if he likes me plus he lives far away so we can’t meet regularly.
Normally, I can tell when a guy is into me as he would text frequently and always find a reason to see me. Here, I can’t tell. He has been taking it very slow (for my liking) and it’s really hard to decipher his intentions even if he says he is attracted and interested.

By: Shay

Shay — Fri, 02 Jun 2023 03:21:13 +0000

In reply to Thomasine. Depression is real and I'm so sorry you had to suffer for so long. I pray that you have finally found peace and now believe that you are worthy of mutual love and respect in a relationship and definitely a marriage. I am also happy to know that you have started dating again and met a man you love and care about. This is good practice for finding your future husband. Unfortunately, this guy is not the man for you. If you want to get married and he does not, then he is not meant for you. Period.

By: Thomasine

Thomasine — Thu, 01 Jun 2023 00:15:46 +0000

Married at age 27 in 1990. What I didn’t know was my husband had a brand new baby and another on the way. He cheated the whole time we were married. I became pregnant 1992. After giving birth in Aug he left me Jan 1993. I was depressed for over 15 years. I didn’t want another relationship. In 2015 I bumped into an old friend and now we are dating. He doesn’t want to get married but I do. He has been the best man I have ever known. I’m sick about this. I had nothing before.

By: onesmartsista

onesmartsista — Tue, 26 May 2020 03:40:36 +0000

In reply to Cyndi. If you want to be married one day, it's a waste of your time.

By: Cyndi

Cyndi — Sun, 26 Apr 2020 20:09:39 +0000

I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years and he uses, “Marriages end in a divorce anyway”. What does that signify? Am I wasting my time ? I’m 29 and dont want to waste my life away..

By: Kat

Kat — Sun, 25 Jun 2017 00:01:42 +0000

I never liked being alone. I’ve been lucky to find two good men. The first died in 2009. After much prayers, 3 years later I was blessed with another companion.