Why We Need to Stop Criticizing Halle Berry’s Love Life

Poor Halle Berry.  She can’t seem to catch a break when it comes to her love life.

Recently we heard the news that Halle Berry has filed for divorce from Olivier Martinez, making this what it seems like a long string of love and marital disasters.

After two years of marriage and one son, the seemingly happy couple has decided to call it quits.

In Hollywood speak, that’s pretty normal, which is also why we need to stop criticizing Halle Berry’s Love Life.

 

Now in light of this news, two of Halle Berry’s exes have jumped on social media to bash her and tell everyone “I told you so” and how she destroys all the men she touches.

I’m confused.

Because if memory serves me right, these men cheated on her.  Publicly.  In fact, one of them even admitted to having a sex addiction and sought treatment for it (though now he claims he was forced to say this at the time).  I also remember one in particular really disrespecting Halle, while she was still his wife.  Contrary to popular belief, it is not the woman’s fault if a man decides to cheat on his wife.  If he’s unhappy, leave, but don’t blame a woman for the reason why you can’t keep your pants on.

It seems to me they are whining more about the ding to their reputation, which they totally blame her for ruining.  Which, um, sounds like to me, they did it to themselves.

In addition to this fiasco, there are many people sounding off on social media stating that this proves that Halle Berry is crazy and that she can’t keep a man.

Really?

First of all, we don’t know what goes on behind closed doors in any relationship.  There’s always three sides to a story, her side, his side and the truth. So who knows if Halle is crazy or not.  To me, it doesn’t matter, which is all the reason for us to stop criticizing Halle Berry’s love life.

I know that there are plenty of Hollywood actors who have changed spouses like some of us change underwear, especially men, and no one is bashing them as they are crazy or that they don’t know what keeps a marriage to work.

So what’s up with the double standard?

We’ll bash Ciara or Rihanna for having multiple boyfriends, but won’t blink an eye to men who go through multiple wives (yes I’m looking at you Larry King).

Also, I can remember a beautiful, now deceased icon who married 9 times.  I can’t remember people bashing her as crazy.

As a woman who has been in and out of relationships, I know that there are a lot of variables that can make a relationship work.  Sometimes they’re not there.  Sometimes he’s the right one, but it’s the wrong time,  or he’s just plain wrong.  Maybe our personalities don’t mesh.  Maybe as we changed our feelings changed.  Who knows?  But, my exes may have called me crazy at the time, but there’s no way they can now say they didn’t have anything to do with the breakup.

Today I read a comment on Facebook where one woman stated that Halle’s exes are now in long lasting relationships with other women, which proves that she is the problem.

Of course, I disagreed.  I can’t speak on these relationships per se, but I can positively say that Halle Berry is wealthier and more famous than any of those women her exes married.  Though they are famous in their own right, these men are relevant now because of her.  That can’t be ignored.  In fact, she’s more famous than any of her exes, which brings me to think that the demise of their relationships had more to do with Halle Berry’s status in Hollywood than her attitude.  If we are honest with ourselves, many of the relationships in Hollywood end when one spouse (especially the wife) becomes more sought after than the other (i.e. Reese Witherspoon).

I don’t know if Halle Berry is crazy or not, but I think there are a lot of things in play.  First of all, I think she picks the wrong men.  There’s some character flaw in each of these men that drives her to them.  She’s not alone in this because ALL of us do this (or probably still doing it) sometime in our lives.  One man in her past beat her until she became deaf in one ear.  Two of the men that we know of were habitual adulterers.  One boy toy uses their child as financial support and who knows what’s wrong with Olivier.  I’m sure he has some issues, but so does everyone.

Second, Halle is beautiful and can pretty much get any man she wants.  She’s also rich and famous.  She doesn’t really need a man to complete her and there’s little incentive for her to stay with one who is not fulfilling her needs.  Unlike the average Jane, Halle can walk when she wants.  Now that’s powerful.

So instead of bashing her about how she’s crazy and how she can’t keep a man, why don’t we applaud her for having the balls to leave a relationship that’s not working for her, her life, or her children?

I’d rather see her happy and alone than miserable and coupled up.  For what, just so she can make you all happy?  Chile, bye.

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