Waiting for a call from a man you’re interested in can be a total rollercoaster of emotions.
It’s normal to find yourself replaying the conversation over and over again, wondering if you said something that turned him off, and feeling anxious about whether or not he’s going to call.
But here’s the thing – there could be a million reasons why he hasn’t reached out to you yet, and it’s best not to jump to any conclusions just yet.
There are some common reasons why men don’t call, and I’ve come up with a few tips on how to handle the situation gracefully and confidently.
So sit tight, put on your big girl panties, and let’s dive into this together!
First, let’s get into some reasons why he hasn’t called you.
He’s Just Not That Into You
Let’s be honest. Not every man is going to be into every woman he meets, and that’s just how the cookie crumbles sometimes.
But here’s the thing you’ve got to remember – it has nothing to do with your worth as a person or how amazing you are.
If he’s not feeling the same way as you, the best thing you can do is take a deep breath, accept it, and move forward.
It’s just not worth your precious time and energy trying to figure out why he’s not calling or how to change his mind. Instead, let’s focus on finding someone who is just as excited about you as you are about them!
So let’s get back out there and find that man who can’t wait to spend time with you.
What It Means When He Doesn’t Call
He’s Busy
It’s possible that the reason he hasn’t called is due to the fact that he’s got a lot on his plate right now.
Just like us, men have busy lives too and sometimes it can be a challenge to carve out time for a phone call or date.
If that’s the case, it’s important to give him the benefit of the doubt and practice a little patience.
Before we get an attitude and in our feelings, let’s not assume he’s trying to play games with our hearts.
Instead, let’s focus on our own lives and interests and give him some space to reach out when he has more free time.
Trust me, he’ll appreciate that you’re not putting any unnecessary pressure on him and you’ll feel better knowing that you’re not jumping to any negative conclusions.
He’s Playing Games
Here’s something that’s true, but most of us hate to admit it, there are men out there who really do play games when it comes to dating. Yes, grown-ass men.
They might wait to call or text just to see if they can make you even more interested, or to test how much effort you’re willing to put in to pursue him.
I’m from the old school and I don’t believe in women chasing men. You shouldn’t either.
If you think he’s playing games, it’s important not to go overboard with calls or texts or try to make him jealous by flirting with other men.
Instead, we should be honest about our feelings and expectations, and not be afraid to move on if he’s not willing to be upfront and honest with us. Trust me, we’re too old for all this game-playing and we deserve to be with someone who shows up for us genuinely.
Related: Signs He’s Playing Games and Is Not Serious About You
He’s Dealing with Personal Issues
Has the thought ever occurred to you that the reason he hasn’t called is that he’s dealing with some personal stuff, that could be taking up his time and energy?
He might be going through a tough breakup, dealing with family issues, or struggling with mental health concerns. If that’s the case, it’s important to be understanding and patient.
You don’t want to push him to talk about his problems if he’s not ready, but it’s a good idea to let him know that you’re there for him if he needs support.
However, if he’s not willing to open up or make time for you, it might be time to move on. Remember, we all have our struggles and we want to be with someone who’s willing to show up for us just as much as we’re willing to show up for them.
So if he’s not making an effort, let’s not waste our precious time and energy on someone who’s not ready for a relationship. Let’s go find someone who’s ready to love and appreciate us for who we are!
He’s Waiting for You to Make the First Move
Here’s the deal, no one likes rejection. In fact, some men can be shy or unsure of themselves when it comes to dating, and they might be waiting for us to make the first move.
If you’re interested in him and you haven’t heard from him, don’t be afraid to take the initiative and reach out.
You can send him a text or give him a call, and let him know that you enjoyed spending time with him and that you’d like to see him again.
If he’s interested, he’ll respond positively, and if he’s not, you’ll have your answer and can move on.
Just remember, there’s nothing wrong with taking the lead and going after what you want. So go ahead and shoot your shot! You never know where it might lead you.
He’s Just Forgetful
Surprisingly, some men tend to forget to reach out after a date. They might have had a great time with you, but it just slipped their mind.
If this is the case, it’s okay to give him a friendly nudge.
You can try sending him a text or giving him a call and saying something like, “Hey, I had a wonderful time the other day and was wondering if you’d like to meet up again soon.”
This will help jog his memory and remind him that he hasn’t followed up with you yet.
He’s Waiting for the “Right” Time
It’s possible that he may be waiting for the “perfect” moment to call or ask you out on another date. They might be worried about being too pushy or getting turned down, so they’re trying to pick the ideal time to make their move.
If so, it’s important to be patient and not take it as a personal rejection. You can let him know that you enjoyed your time together and are interested in seeing him again. After that, give him some space to make the next move.
Remember that if he’s genuinely interested in you, he’ll find a way to make it happen.
In the meantime, focus on enjoying your life and doing things that make you happy.
Related: 5 Ways to Know He’s Interested in You
He’s Testing Your Patience
Some men may be intentionally not calling or texting in order to test your patience or see how interested you really are.
However, it’s important not to get caught up in this kind of behavior. Don’t try to make him jealous or chase after him. Unfortunately, in this day and age, there are some men who liked to be chased.
Instead, be honest with yourself about what you’re looking for in a relationship and communicate that clearly to him. If he’s not willing to reciprocate and be upfront with you, it may be best to move on and find someone who values and respects you.
So, what can you do when he doesn’t call?
Here are some tips on what to do when he doesn’t call.
Don’t Panic
First and foremost, don’t panic.
Instead of jumping to conclusions, take a step back and focus on yourself. Engage in activities that make you happy, spend time with friends and family, and don’t put your life on hold waiting for him.
In the meantime, it’s okay to send a friendly message to check in and let him know that you’re thinking of him.
But be careful not to come across as desperate or needy. Keep your message casual and lighthearted, and don’t put pressure on him to respond.
Live Your Best Life
Instead of obsessing over why he hasn’t called, focus on yourself.
While waiting for a man to call, it’s important to focus on living your best life. One way to do this is by pursuing your interests and passions. Engage in activities that bring you joy, whether it’s reading a good book, going for a hike, or trying out a new recipe.
You can also take this time to focus on personal growth and development by setting goals for yourself and working towards achieving them.
Remember that you are a valuable and desirable person, regardless of whether or not he calls.
Be Honest with Yourself
Take some time to reflect on your feelings and expectations. Are you really interested in this man, or are you just looking for validation?
Are you okay with waiting for him to make the first move, or would you rather take the initiative?
Be honest with yourself, and don’t be afraid to set boundaries or move on if he’s not meeting your needs.
Communicate Clearly
If you want to reach out to him, it’s important to be straightforward and clear in your communication. Just let him know that you had a great time with him and that you’re interested in seeing him again.
Avoid playing games or trying to manipulate him. Instead, be genuine and honest about your feelings and what you’re looking for in a relationship.
Remember that open communication is the key to any healthy relationship, so don’t be afraid to speak your truth.
And if he’s not on the same page as you, it’s okay to move on and keep looking for the right person who will appreciate and value you for who you are.
Be Patient
If he hasn’t called or texted back yet, be patient. Don’t bombard him with messages or calls, as this can come across as needy or desperate.
Give him space and time to respond, and focus on your own life in the meantime.
Just make the determination of how much time and space you’re going to give him. If too much time passes, then you should move on.
Remember, his silence is also a decision. When he doesn’t call, he has shown you that you’re not a priority in his life right now or at all.
Don’t Take it Personally
Remember that his lack of communication is not a reflection of your worth or desirability as a person. Don’t take it personally, and don’t let it affect your self-esteem.
Keep in mind that there are plenty of other men out there who would be lucky to spend time with you.
When he doesn’t call, it can be a frustrating experience, but it’s important not to let it consume you.
Focus on yourself, communicate clearly, and be patient. Remember that your worth and desirability as a person are not determined by whether or not a man calls you back.
Keep an open mind and don’t be afraid to take the initiative in your dating life.
Ultimately, the right person will come along who is willing to put in the effort and communicate effectively with you.
I just loved your write-up, having said said that, it was very helpful to me….
The man l did care about, it has going on 7 months since l heard from him…I was hoping at one point he would want to talk to me, and discuss what happen to me and have communication…That would be how l could explain to him how l was so dehydrated from not having lots of water like l would always have,
But on hid day l did along with bread…So as a result, when l got home two glasses when right to my head and l didn’t remember the rest of the evening..
First time it ever happened to me, and there was no forgiveness on his part or
To sit down and a discussion….He left the next morning mad and then ghosted
Me…l have come to the conclusion that he didn’t real care for me to do so that!
So l will now look for a man that cares enough and have respect for me and has forgiveness, that every one makes mistakes, and things happen…